One of the biggest dating questions which haunt women is whether her
boyfriend is ready to commit. She may be sticking around with him for
almost a couple of years now, hoping that he will make up his mind and
still waiting for the elusive engagement ring.
If you don’t want to waste time waiting for a man who's not ready, learn
to pick up ten signs which tell you that he’s not going to propose
marriage in a hurry.
He never discusses marriage: This is perhaps the first hint that
should start ringing warning bells in your mind. Your boyfriend cannot
be caught dead talking about marriage as an institution or even
commenting on commercials for wedding products and services. He won’t
mention it even if his own brother is getting married and he is going to
be the best man. His aversion to the M-word should be indication enough
that marriage does not figure anywhere in his near future.
He is hugely ambitious: Guys whose only
mission in their lives is to reach the top of their professional ladder
are likely to take their time settling down. This is because emotional
commitment to a partner might force them to cut down on their working
hours and make networking with business contacts or frequent out-of-town
trips difficult. Though this is not to say that married guys don’t find
success – witness President Obama and Bill Gates – super ambitious men
who are perpetually looking for the next bigger and better thing are
more likely to consider marriage as leading to professional stagnation.
All his friends are single: This is as sure a sign as any that
your boyfriend is not going to propose marriage. If you notice that his
social circle is exclusively made of bachelors and divorced men, it is
evident that he is uncomfortable around married couples and has no plans
to join their ranks in near future.
He has strong sexual needs: A guy who places great emphasis on
sex and considers it the most important part of a relationship is
unlikely to settle for a single partner. Gone are the days when men
could be baited into marriage on the lure of sex. The dissociation of
sex and marriage as well as sexual freedom for women has also made it
easier for men to keep sleeping around unless they wish to marry for
other reasons. And if your boyfriend has a large sexual appetite, it is
unlikely to be satisfied by a single person. He will sooner or later get
tired of being with you and move on to someone else he can go to bed
with.
He lives out of a suitcase: Men with unstable living conditions
usually have priorities like work and travel which are bound to clash
with a stable married life. You may be thrilled to have a high-flying
war correspondent or wildlife photographer as a boyfriend, but such
people are unlikely to settle down to tame domesticity. Far easier to
spot – and avoid – are guys who are in and out of jobs or in trouble
with the law and thus perpetually on the move. Rather look for men who
have stable lives since they are the ones more likely to be looking for
stable relationships.
He does not take you to meet his family: This is an unmistakable
sign that a guy is not considering marriage even though he may be dating
someone. Men usually discuss their families only with those who are
close enough to be let into their inner lives. If your boyfriend has
never suggested that you meet his parents and even appears to be
uncomfortable talking about them to you, then perhaps he is not ready to
make you an intrinsic part of his life.
You don’t figure in his plans: When talking about his future,
does your guy merely discuss his goals of starting a business someday
and are his dreams limited to retiring by the sea with his very own
beach house and luxury boat? If so or something similar, then this is an
indication that you are not part of his future plans and thus unlikely
to be his wife any time soon. Unless of course, he goes through a
life-changing experience and realizes the value of a committed
relationship which is again putting too much store by chance and
therefore not worth wasting your life for.
He doesn’t ask you about yours: In a reversal of the above point,
a guy unwilling to commit will also be uninterested to know about your
life goals and hopes for the future. The present – comfortably carefree
and uncomplicated – is good enough for him. He does not want to know if
you want to eventually settle in the suburbs or how many kids would you
like to have and whether you would prefer little girls or boys. Hell, he
doesn’t even want to know where you have always wanted to go for your
honeymoon! If you find all this true in case of your boyfriend, then you
can kiss your dreams of marrying him goodbye and start looking for a
more suitable guy.
He is divorced: While divorced men are technically single and
thus seeming candidates for a committed relationship, if your guy has
gone through a particularly messy divorce, then probably he cannot bear
the thought of marrying again. To be sure about this, pry around gently
to see how badly he feels about his breakup and whether the scars are
deep enough to be permanent. Other than emotional issues, a divorced man
may also be caught up in child support and alimony so as to make any
further commitments completely out of the question.
He is not forthcoming about personal information: Have you ever
wondered why your boyfriend is always vague when you ask him about his
work and where he lives? You might have a rough idea that he is into
finance and that he commutes from the suburbs but if he is unwilling to
clearly share his personal information with you, probably he has
something to hide – a spouse or a lover maybe. Or more likely he is
determined to keep you away from the rest of his personal life. Not
exactly marriage material, is he?
No one can say for sure what goes on in a person’s mind and what
influences his/her decisions. But if your boyfriend displays all or most
of the above signs, then more likely than not, he is not yet ready to
propose marriage to you.
Source: Futurescopes
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